At Consciously Kinky we use four key methodologies: Coaching, Counselling, Hypnotherapy and EMDR.  Over the coming weeks, we'd like to tell you about each one and how it could benefit you.

Today, the spotlight is on Counselling. 

I'm Paul. I have a background in Person Centred Counselling, but I take an integrative approach. I has a foundation degree in counselling and hundreds of hours of therapy work under my belt. I'm a member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy). 

Counselling is a supportive and confidential process where a trained professional helps you explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences and what they mean for you. 

Counselling provides a safe space to talk about personal challenges, whether they’re related to mental health, relationships, stress, trauma, grief, or major life decisions. 

Unlike talking to a friend or family member, counselling is a non-judgmental space where you’re free to speak openly without fear of being criticised or misunderstood. This is particularly important to us at Consciously Kinky where we know how often people misinterpret, judge or shame our sexuality or desires.

Put simply, friends and family (and some other therapists) are usually keen to push their own view and perspective, whereas counselling with Consciously Kinky explores what you feel and what your inner thoughts mean for you.

No judgement. No shame. 

One of the main benefits of counselling is gaining clarity and insight into your own thoughts and behaviour. A counsellor can help you understand patterns that may be keeping you stuck or unhappy, and work with you to develop healthier ways of coping.

It’s not about being told what to do—rather, it’s a collaborative process that empowers you to make choices that feel right for you.

Counselling can also help reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, and other emotional struggles. Talking things through can lighten emotional burdens and help you feel less overwhelmed or alone. 

It can improve your self-esteem, relationships, and overall emotional resilience. Even if you’re not in crisis, counselling can be a proactive way to look after your mental health and well-being.

You might consider counselling if you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, something is not sitting right with you, or you simply want a better understanding of yourself.

Whether you're facing a specific issue or just feel that something’s not quite right, speaking to a counsellor can offer support and perspective. 

It’s a step toward investing in yourself and your quality of life—and many people find that even a few sessions can make a meaningful difference. I’ve seen people who have made changes that have altered the course of their lives after working with me.

I offer a complimentary no-obligation 45-minute discovery session. We can meet, understand each other better, and we can discuss your challenges. You’ll have the opportunity to ask questions and check that I can support you.

Get in touch if you’d like to know more about kink-aware and LGBTQ+ affirming counselling / therapy.